“….with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love..”.
True submission consists in a thorough conformity to the whole will of God, who wills and does all (excepting sin) which happens in the world. In order to do this, we have only to embrace all events, good and bad, as His will. We should quietly suffer whatever happens to us, to bear the defects of others and our own, to confess them to God in secret prayer, or with groans which cannot be uttered, but never to speak a sharp or peevish word, nor to murmur or repine, but thoroughly willing that God should treat you in the manner that pleases him. We are his lambs, and therefore should be ready to suffer, even to the death, without complaining. We are to bear with those we cannot amend, and to be content with offering them to God. This is true submission. And since He has borne our weaknesses, we may well bear those of each other for His sake.
There is no love of God without patience, and no patience without humbleness and sweetness of spirit. Humility and patience are the most certain evidence for increasing love. Humility alone unites patience with love, without which it is impossible to draw benefit from suffering or indeed to avoid complaint, especially when we think we have given no occasion for what men make us suffer. True humility is a kind of self-annihilation, and this is the center of all virtues. A soul returned to God should be attentive to everything which is said to him, on the head of salvation, with a desire to profit from this. Of the sins which God has forgiven, let nothing remain but a deeper humility in the heart and a stricter regulation in our words, in our actions, and in our sufferings. God is the first object of our love. Its next office is to bear the defects of others. We should begin practicing this within our own household. We should chiefly exercise our love towards them who most shock either our way of thinking, or our temper, or our knowledge, or the desire we have, that others should be as virtuous as we wish to be ourselves.